A life with young children isn't always romantic paradise. As a mom running my own business with two growing kids—one who often stays up late—I've felt the strain on my relationship firsthand. Romance and intimacy can feel elusive amid the chaos, but with conscious effort, you can bring it back.
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Romance and sex remain priorities for me (and my partner too 😉). We've made a point to schedule it intentionally. While you can't script romance perfectly, taking action works wonders. Drawing from my own experience, here are the strategies that have helped us.
With two energetic kids demanding constant attention—and work that never ends—my partner and I had drifted into spending too little quality time together. It was time to change that before we grew apart.
We now plan a weekly date night without the kids. Sometimes it's dinner out or a concert (like Armin van Buuren tonight); other times, we stay home. I prepare a special meal, put the kids to bed early (the oldest watches TV upstairs), and we eat around 8 PM. Light a candle, open a nice bottle of wine, and focus on us—not the kids. It's a simple reset that reignites the spark.
Many new moms let self-care slide post-baby, and I get it—motherhood is exhausting. But don't make it the norm if you want romance to thrive. Avoid defaulting to sweatpants every night.
I work from a home office, so it's tempting to roll out of bed straight to my desk, but I make an effort to dress nicely—for myself and my partner. Ask what he loves seeing you in, add romantic touches like sexy lingerie (he always notices!). It boosts your confidence and keeps the attraction alive.
Communication is the cornerstone of a successful relationship and sustained romance. Share what's on your mind without bottling it up—frustration only builds. Trust each other, stay independent, and truly listen. When I invest energy here, it returns tenfold, strengthening our bond.
Surprises keep the love fresh. Slip a sweet note into his lunch or on his pillow, or send a simple kiss emoji via WhatsApp. These small acts show appreciation and thoughtfulness, reminding him he's cherished.
How do you nurture romance in your relationship? Do you have set rituals, or does spontaneity still work? Share your tips below!
