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Platonic love and long-distance relationship:what are the differences?

The long distance relationship, a one-off platonic love

In a long-distance relationship, it is the physical separation of the two lovers that prevents them from indulging in carnal pleasure. Abstinence is not a choice. It is a consequence of the distance, especially since as soon as the couple finds itself, it is the marathon of sex! We take care of the smallest details, we buy lingerie, we experience new sensations... Everything is done to get the machine going again, even if, sometimes, lovers have to deal with a capricious libido...

In contrast, in platonic love, not having sex is a distance-independent choice. Abstinence is total despite physical proximity. All erogenous zones are on extended vacation, until an unknown date...

Platonic love, long-distance relationship:what place for sexuality?

In a long-distance relationship, sexuality is as important as in a couple under the same roof, if not more. Lovers go the extra mile so that their relationship does not turn into a platonic friendship.

They are distant from each other, but they do not give up carnal pleasure. Fortunately, there are effective defenses against the many kilometers that separate them. We try our hand at sexting, we send suggestive photos, we "make love" remotely on Skype... We even blow up our phone plan with naughty conversations. All means are good to manage sexual frustration and not to be tempted by infidelity.

On the other hand, in platonic love, the libido is absent. Platonic lovers do not experience physical desire. They are only interested in the beauty of the soul, to the detriment of the body.

Stay connected despite everything

Despite their differences, platonic love and a long-distance relationship have in common the desire of the couples concerned to make the special bond that unites them last. We may reveal ourselves more, or differently. We (really) listen to each other, we communicate more than an "ordinary" couple... In short, the other occupies a place that is all the more important because we only have that to offer.

In platonic love, sex does not blur the messages that one sends to his other half, since it is non-existent. The platonic lover loves the other for what he really is, and not for the physical pleasure he can bring him.

In the case of long-distance relationships, lovers make efforts to be constantly connected to each other. Smartphones, computers, tablets, social networks…, all means are good to maintain the flame. In the end, distance, or the absence of carnal relationships, are not really insurmountable obstacles. They push lovers to compete in imagination to make their story last. Moreover, according to a very serious study, long-distance relationships are stronger than "normal" relationships. Something to think about...