At the end of a romantic relationship, we always have a loved one wanting to be reassuring, and who bombards us with standard (and depressing) phrases such as “come on, one lost, ten found!” » or even « the next time, it will be the good one! "… Thank you ! What if, before thinking about the next relationship, we first took the time to look at the mistakes (perhaps) made? Here are three tips to remember before getting started again!
When you start a new romantic relationship, you naturally want to show your best side. A tempting idea of course, but be careful not to “cheat” the other! For a more lasting relationship, we stay natural (so if we have unicorn pajamas, it is better to admit it right away!). Why ? Because Bibi risks falling in love with someone who is not us, and after a while, it will cost us to pretend and he/she risks being disappointed. Staying true to yourself also allows you to keep a necessary perspective on your relationship and to say if you made the right choice and that it suits you, or on the contrary, that it does not suit you (or no longer) . Clearly, to avoid certain disappointments, we remain faithful to his personality, and above all, to his expectations!
When we fall in love, we often want to do everything to meet the expectations of our other half, and to make them feel good with us. Only here, Bibi does not always have the same desires as us in the relationship and we often (too) tend to act with him (or her) as we would like him (or her) to act with us... at the risk of send him the wrong message! Communication is therefore essential, we must talk to each other as soon as we feel that we are no longer on the same wavelength or that the behavior of our other half worries us, to avoid a real misunderstanding. . Often, talking is enough to understand each other and then all that remains is to make a few adjustments to reconcile our expectations with those of Bibi.
Bibi can't stand our cat? Problems with his mother? A deep hatred of storage? If a person evolves over time (maturity, job, friendships, etc.), there is on the other hand little chance that the important traits of his personality will change radically. Trying to transform someone brings disappointment for us and frustration for the other. To be more fulfilled in your relationship, it is therefore better to assume that Bibi will not change (and that after all, we love her like that!). If there is a conflict, we prefer a moment of discussion, where we remain attentive to the other, so as to (better) understand their reactions... And if that does not work, nothing is serious, we are looking for a person who will suit us better!
