A child sometimes falls hard from a climbing frame and during a romp it can also get quite hurt. Just keep it in? Better not! According to researchers, a little rough and dangerous play is actually good for them. An upbringing that is too protected is not useful, even if you might think it is in terms of health.
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The study looked at the playing environment, dangerous play and its health effects. An environment in which children take more risks, by climbing and jumping from things, or where they can get lost, appears to elicit more active play than a 'safe' play environment and a protected upbringing. Moreover, rough play is associated with more social interaction and promotes creativity.
According to the researchers, this outweighs the possible disadvantages such as injuries. So just send your children outside and don't pay too much attention to them, because if there is supervision they play just a little differently 😉 . Add some wine and everyone is happy.
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I am quite protective in some areas. With two men in the house, I'm sure to wet my chest. Stories teach me that males do not treat each other very carefully and that a nice little bit can be handed out here and there.
Yet I am not trying to to to be protective. Let them discover the world, let them go crazy, literally and figuratively, because that's what they'll eventually learn from, right?
I remember when Noud was in the phase where he could walk well and my mother used to make those startle noises all the time when he got to the corner of the table he just couldn't fit under, or she would run over and hold her hand. put in front of the corner. I then became irritated; dude, mom, just let him bump his head and don't interfere, then he'll immediately understand that he shouldn't do that anymore.
Furthermore, I am not a terrible mother;), I do pay attention and make sure that it does not become dangerous.
What about you as a parent? Do you leave them a little free to discover the world or do you walk behind it to tell them what they can or should not do. Personally, I think I'm a jack of all trades. I can let the children quite freely in their play and am not afraid of a fall or bump. On the other hand, I do protect them more from other things.
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For example, I am not in favor of the children staying everywhere all the time, so feel free to say a resounding NO when asked. Sometimes I just prefer to have them at home, if they have recently stayed somewhere or if one is not fit I prefer to keep an eye on it myself.
I think (or actually know for sure) that as a mother I can do that the very best.
Now I was reading about a book that talks about overprotection. When is there overprotection? If you, as a mother, arrange everything for your child and bring and fetch him everywhere? If he never goes out on his own or never meets up with friends alone? Is a mother so protective because (she thinks) he is so afraid to do things by himself? Or is the child afraid to do things himself because a mother has always been so protective of him?
In my opinion it is not possible to protect your child always and everywhere. Quarrels, pain, illness, everyone will have to deal with it at some point in their life and it is therefore more important to teach your child to deal with it.
We protect out of concern. And concern is also necessary, because this makes us alert. But teaching your child to let go is also important. It helps them to solve problems themselves, whereby you can always indicate that when they have a problem, you will always be a listening ear for them. After all, a person has two ears and one mouth to listen twice as much as to talk.
