According to Philippe Brenot, couples psychiatrist and anthropologist.*
True love feels far less 'absolute,' 'intense,' and 'obvious' to men than to women, who often chase 'the one' or 'the unique.' Men are more likely to experience multiple great loves, move on faster to new chapters, and sometimes confuse passionate excitement with deep love. This doesn't make men's love any less profound—we simply run on different 'software,' shaped by culture (like the Prince Charming fairy tale ingrained in girls) and biology. What unites us? A craving for enduring, profound love amid growing fears of heartbreak.
*Author of Men, Sex and Love, ed. Marabout, and One Day, My Prince, ed. The Arenas.
According to Ray Satou, journalist at BIBA.
Romantic notions are fine, but 'true love' sounds like a girlish fantasy (thanks, Prince Charming). In reality, terms like 'soul mate' or 'the one' can be daunting: 1) With so many breakups, banking on just one love risks loneliness; 2) It breeds complacency once you're together. What matters? Genuine love that brings happiness, built steadily with doubts, simple joys, and real effort. If that's 'true love,' count me in.
According to Alexandre Cormont, love coach.
www.alexandrecormont.com
Men don't overthink it. They spot 'love at first sight,' think 'she's the one for me,' and the 'woman of my life' label emerges after years together. Their mindset: 'If it feels good now, great.' No deep analysis needed. Above all, they seek a 'perfect couple' dynamic—one offering attention and surprises (mutual seduction and romance). The catch? Over-idealizing can lead to bailing when reality doesn't match the dream.
*Author of the site Understanding Men and the book The Art and Way of Getting Your Ex Back, ed. Michel Lafon.
