It's like reliving that disoriented feeling from over 10 years ago, lost in a completely new environment.
But this time, I was prepared—I'd been forewarned!
Even so...
Nearly four years ago, our studious daughter—who always excelled in class—was set to enter a top-tier middle school, thanks to her stellar grades. That notorious 6th grade, fueled by urban legends of "everything changes, it's wild." I'd already sensed the shift toward the end of elementary school (CM2). I have a keen instinct for these things, friends.
And bam—shock hit hard. Confusion. Paralysis on how to respond. We tried every gentle and firm approach (no drugs, though the thought crossed our minds during the toughest times)... our entire family life was upended.
It lasted three years. For the past year, things have slowly but steadily improved. She's growing, maturing—and so are we. Amid the misery, we notched small victories that kept us motivated. Now, with clear perspective, I can reflect.
I felt helpless, perhaps mistakenly, or maybe I avoided facing it head-on. But reading your stories, fellow moms—here, on social media, in our private Facebook group where we've shared openly for months—I've regained my sharp instincts. Something's missing.
Just like 15 years ago when I became a mom, resources on motherhood's darker, painful sides were scarce—no Florence Foresti or "Mother Fucker" to ease the guilt or normalize those un-PC urges to reclaim ourselves as women, physically, psychologically (and sleep-deprived) after birth, adorable baby or not.
These challenging years (far from over) haven't made me an adolescence expert—far from it. In hindsight, we were fortunate: her rebellion was intense but didn't spiral out of control or put her in danger (likely because it started early).
Yet, I've learned invaluable lessons. About her, myself, and functional adolescence. I've read extensively, consulted experts, and gathered practical tips and mantras I want to share widely.
My core goal? Break the taboos. Every family navigates this phase. Open talk helps us feel heard, understood, and empowered—making moms stronger to weather the storm and stay resilient.
Teaming up with my friend Célia, a psy-coach and mom of two pre-teen/teen daughters (with whom I've shared monthly lunches for nearly 10 years), we've launched a podcast. Her psychological insights complement my perspective perfectly. We plan regular episodes on adolescence themes.
No taboos. Overflowing with kindness. Our real experiences. Her breakdowns of teen brain science (mind-blowing, I promise). My humor (she's hilarious in person too). The result? A podcast called orio or Yippee, I Have a Teenager!.
Perfect timing: Ground Control is running a competition to launch podcast projects. We're entering—here. If you love the idea, vote for us in the "to take action" category. Listen to our voices too!
Can't wait for your feedback. Thanks to those who've voted via my Instagram and Facebook!
