We've all been there: waiting so long for that first call or text that sparks a new connection, we can't bear to miss it. Anything could happen in the time it takes a quick bathroom break (which is why we often leave the door cracked during binge-watches). We've strategically placed our phone on the floor or toilet paper roll for easy viewing, and yes, we've stared at it for minutes, silently willing it to ring: "Come on, just call already."
In moments of desperation, when phone anxiety peaks, options are limited. We either stew alone for 10 (or 30) minutes or dial our go-to friend. Better yet, we vent ("Why do guys grip beer pints effortlessly but fumble texting?") and get her calm, objective analysis over our revved-up brain. Thankfully, she's there with gems like, "Chill, it's only been 4 hours since the bar," or "Three weeks? You're giving him too much power." Spot on.
"Maybe he lent his phone to his cousin." In reality, no one loans out their phone. Sure, freak accidents happen, but getting phonejacked right when he should call? Unlikely. Still, we invent reasons—one part to counter friends' "Another flake? You're cursed" pity party (they usually call back eventually), and two parts needing reassurance it's not personal.
Not the healthiest move, especially to numb the sting of latching onto someone oblivious to calling back. A glass (or three) of white wine leads to sloppy confessions to our friend about dying alone with cats. Next morning: no call, pounding headache, bad breath—and yes, phone in hand even while heading to the bathroom to throw up.
We rewind to the source: "He checked his watch twice—did I bore him? All that mom talk—Oedipus issues?" We dissect thesis-antithesis-synthesis style, scrutinizing gestures and tics. Finally: "Duh, I forgot to give him my number!"
Guilty as charged—but moderately, to avoid seeming obsessive. Smart check: recent mobile posts mean he had his phone and likely saw your text (no SMS spam yet). Or confirm Saturday silence was due to a party at friend Jean's.
A solid intent to detach: silence notifications, watch a movie or news (world has bigger problems). Oddly, we sometimes power off and on—just in case of a glitchy undelivered message. Hey, it could happen!
The nudge: remind him you exist, spark convo. Risky ploy—they spot it a mile away, especially 'wrong recipient' ones boasting other admirers. Outcomes: 1) He calls your bluff, you look desperate; 2) "No prob" dead-ends; 3) Crickets, confirming he's not worth it.
Got more? Share in the comments what you do during the wait!
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