The life of a parent is made up of difficulties, questions and worries that are the source of a lot of stress. This is why we seek advice and solutions from other parents or from positive education professionals. But we can also become more autonomous and move forward on our own towards the foundations of positive education.
Contents 1 Addressing difficulties 2 Being the model 3 Respecting thingsA good way to practice positive parenting is to simply become more curious about the reality of the child. This curiosity has the double advantage of putting us in a sincere and authentic connection with our child (without manipulation) and of making us move forward towards the healthy and lasting resolution of our problems.
Finally, this child whose behavior is causing us problems, what does he have to say to us?
Parents sometimes virulently judge and disapprove of the behavior of their emotionally charged child. I don't know about you, but for my part, I hope my loved ones don't judge me too harshly when I'm stressed, because that's when I show the worst of myself! I like to believe, on the contrary, that they can welcome me, understand me and forgive me, and this encourages me to give the best of myself.
If you feel like you lose control of yourself when you're under pressure, remember according to science, as an adult, you could develop strong emotional regulation resources, if you wanted to.
On the other hand, this is not the case with the child, and asking him to do better than you would be unfair and only lead to more frustration.
Many parents ask their child to be nice. When their child has a fight, when he arrives at a birthday party, when he visits his grandparents, he is immediately decked out with "be nice" utterly uncomfortable...
It is uncomfortable because the qualities of being do not dictate themselves, do not claim or require themselves. They live and identify us in the eyes of others.
It is because we will practice kindness in our daily lives that our children will become kind themselves!
Teaching children respect requires showing them respect
The 4 keys to communication:
I encourage you to use his 4 points with your children.
Let's show respect to our children and give them the chance to observe adults who respectfully engage in their relationships. Our children will quite naturally tend to copy us. Let's avoid all disrespectful attitudes that only teach rudeness and aggressiveness.
